I’ve spent the last few days mourning the loss of a friendship, one that I chose to terminate following some unpleasant exchanges between the two of us which, frankly, came down to a difference of perspective on some unexpected events. I’m not angry; I’m just incredibly upset and disappointed.
This blog entry is, however, not about any of that. It was originally going to be all about the lessons that one learns about friendship and personal growth, but things have changed – as they often do – in the space of 24 hours… and so too has my perspective along with it.
Following a conversation tonight with a friend who is facing their personal health challenges head-on, with the same dignity that this person has always carried themselves, I felt my ‘worries’ disintegrate into nothingness.
I may not be exactly where I want to be, yet I am fortunate to be where I am.
It reminded me that I need to treat each day as if it were my last (a lesson I teach others yet seem to sometimes easily forget for myself). It reminded me that there is little we can take with us beyond this life other than how authentically we have lived our lives. It reminded me of how important it is to focus on what is truly important – love.
I made a point tonight of reaching out to that small group of people that I love, yet who I hadn’t spent nearly enough time connecting with lately; those people, beyond my biological family, who I have chosen as my family. At this time of year, when we all head off to spend time with our loved ones, I think it’s also a great time to tell your ‘chosen family’ just how much you care for them.
Because at the end of the day, love is all that really matters.
Thank you, each and every one of you, for your support in 2015, because it really does mean a lot to me that so many of y0u have subscribed to my blog and continue to be interested in what I have to say.
I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a happy new year. May 2016 bring you success, prosperity and – above all – love.
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