Why Your Negativity Is None Of My Business

I’m an optimist. Which is possibly why I get so annoyed with listening to people who whine and moan about things all the time. Yet, I choose not to say anything because, at the end of the day, the way you live your life is none of my business. So, why is it that some people feel it is their right to force their negative opinions onto others rather than respecting, as I do, the difference of opinions?

As an author, blogger and coach who uses social media a lot to share my message for those who are interested, I’m always surprised when I see negative comments either on one of my accounts or on an account I follow. This morning, I was enjoying my morning ritual of coffee and Instagram and, yet again, saw people taking the time out to post nasty comments on other people’s postings. There’s something vile about the sort of nastiness and animosity that some people choose to unleash from the relative anonymity of their keyboards.

I don’t expect everybody to have a perfectly positive outlook on life (yet how lovely would it be if everyone did?!), however I draw the line at tolerating outright negativity or hostility. I’ve been on the receiving end of it myself from time to time online and I know how unpleasant it is. I’d like to think that, as a species, we are better than that. 

I believe we should all respect one another and our individual right to our opinions, however let’s be clear – that doesn’t mean I want to (or, indeed, will) listen to you moan and I definitely will not listen to you saying unpleasant or nasty things. Whilst I know that other people’s negativity has nothing to do with me – that’s all about them and it often speaks to an abundance of underlying “stuff” which is up to that individual to resolve if they want to lead a healthy emotional life – it still has an impact, because the words we choose to put out into the world have an energy attached to them; positive words breed positive energy, negative words breed negative energy. I don’t know about you, but for me this is a no-brainer – next time you’re with someone who is pumping out the negativity, take a note of how the energy changes in the space you’re in; same for positive energy.

Your words are a reflection of who you are and they have the power to change the world, for good or for ill. It’s up to you to make a conscious decision every time you open your mouth about what kind of message you want to share. If it’s negative then best of luck to you, however I won’t be listening.


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