Isn’t it funny how we try to convince ourselves that we’re in control, when the reality is that nothing could be further from the truth?
We try to make other people and even the world itself bend to our will, but the fact of the matter is that Doris Day was right: whatever will be, will be. All that we have any direct control over is ourselves – our words, our actions and our feelings (and more specifically, what we do with our feelings).
Knowing that is freedom. Because when you know that (and I mean truly know that and embrace it, not just know it and then pretend it’s not the case…), you begin to look at everything differently. Those little irritations that we all face a thousand times a day? Not really that important, and outside of your control. If all you can do is choose how you respond to any given situation, it changes the way you approach things.
And that also means that you don’t need to try to do things specifically for other people – you can choose to do what feels right to you. Like writing a blog post that only goes for 100 words instead of 1000. Because, I hope you’ll agree, the point has been made – focus on what is within your direct control, and let go of the illusion of control for everything else.